
There’s a saying that goes something like “You have two ears, and one mouth, and you should use them in that proportion.” In other words, when having a conversation, listen more than you speak.
While I still apply the above words of wisdom in my personal and professional dialog, in the digital world the “conversation” is a very different one. We have moved from one on one, to phone, to email, to exponetially more all while still tring to maintain essentially a two way conversation. With the emergence of microblogs, blogs, and lifestreamers we are now having conversations with hundreds and thousands of people who we have at some point engaged.
So what does this mean? Our mindset, our goals, our expectations are different in these two forms of communication.
1) Tin Can Conversation: You pick up one can, your friend picks up the other. You talk. We go to our tried and true methods of email, etc, to ensure that a piece of information directed at one or possibly a few people gets to its destination and elicits a specific response. Sure the guy on the other side can send it to others and so forth, but the primary purpose of our tin can conversations is to make sure that one person gets the message we want them to hear. We want them to respond and to take action based on a request sent directly to them.
(The above example requires that you omit the chain emails from your Mother, that she forwards to 300 people re: “Elf Yourself!”
2) Skywriting Communication. This type of conversation (the one taking the world by storm) is best exemplified with microblogs such as Twitter. Thousands of people, sending out messages into space that may or may not ever be read. The mindset when writing these messages is completely different. When a person shares a link, quips about the nasty weather, or responds to their @buddy, they are essentially writing a message in the sky. Some people will be outside to see it (and care) and others will be at work and miss it. By the time they walk by, the wind, and other planes will have blown it away. But authors who are comfortable with these tools know that, and accordingly change their form of communication and their expectations. If this type of conversation elicits feedback, great! If not, there’s another airplane in the hanger waiting to go.
Whatever form they take, these two choices of communication will continue to live in harmony. Regardless of how many people we can now connect with, we will always have the need to communicate with a person directly. At the same time, we now have an endless sea of information that we can explore to grow create more opportunities for those direct connections.
Hopefully our options continue to increase.